here is a quiet truth I have learned through years of sitting with Spirit and people’s stories:
The more I heal, the better I read.
Clarity does not come from more certifications, more tools, or more followers. It comes from the deep, ongoing work of facing yourself with compassion, releasing what no longer serves you, and learning to trust the stillness within.
Whether you are just starting out, or you have been offering readings for years, there is a point where your growth plateaus. Not because you are not gifted, but because unhealed wounds begin to cloud the channel.
We do not always notice it. It can show up as self-doubt, hesitation, fuzzy impressions, projection onto clients, or a sense of fatigue after a reading. We might try to push through it, hoping that one more deck, or one more course, will help.
But real expansion does not come from adding more.
It comes from clearing what is in the way.

The Healing Behind the Gift
​You cannot separate your intuitive gifts from the person you are. Your energy, your emotions, your beliefs, and your nervous system are part of the message you are delivering.
If you have experienced trauma, and most of us have, it leaves traces. It shapes how you interpret what you receive, how you connect with others, and whether you trust yourself to speak what you know.
When we carry emotional weight that has not been addressed, we might unconsciously soften the truth, second-guess our instincts, or absorb energy that was never ours to carry.
But when we begin to heal, something beautiful happens:

• Our readings become clearer and more accurate
• We stop apologizing for what we know
• We hold space with more steadiness and less effort
• We trust our own voice, and let it rise
• We begin to feel the presence of Spirit in a deeper, quieter way

You Are Not Falling Behind, You Are Being Invited In
​If you have felt disconnected, unsure, or like your intuitive work has lost its spark, you are not broken. You are being invited to deepen. This is the part many people skip, but it is also the part that brings the most transformation.
Healing is not separate from psychic development.
It is the foundation that allows your gifts to flourish.
I say this as someone who continues to do this work for myself.
I am a psychic, a medium, and a Tarot reader, and I still grow more accurate, more aligned, and more connected each time I release something that no longer belongs in my field. The more I heal, the better I serve.

How I Healed Myself
​Before I ever offered this work to others, I did it for myself.
I searched for healing through every doorway I could find, bioenergetics, rebirthing, primal scream therapy, and countless other paths that promised release. Each gave me a piece of the puzzle, but nothing truly helped me feel integrated and free.
Then I found Neuro Emotional Release. It was the first time I felt my body let go of what my mind had been carrying for years. Not through force, or rehashing stories, but through presence, trust, and a method that spoke directly to the nervous system.
That experience changed me. So much so, that in addition to all of the professional development I continue to do as a psychic, medium, and Tarot reader, I chose to become certified in NER. Because I knew I had to offer what actually works.
I share this not to prove anything, but to say, I have been there, unsure, overwhelmed, and aching for a breakthrough. And I want you to know there is a way through, and you do not have to walk it alone.

​This Is Why I Offer Neuro Emotional Release
​I work with intuitives, empaths, and seekers who are ready to clear the emotional patterns that limit their clarity and confidence. Some are professionals. Others are just beginning to trust their gifts. Many are sensitive souls who want to feel more at home in their own lives, their bodies, and their knowing.
I work gently, respectfully, and without judgment, using a method called Neuro Emotional Release. It is not about revisiting trauma or telling the story again. It is about listening to the body, releasing what is stuck, and allowing your energy to return to flow.
You do not need to push harder or pretend you are fine. You need a space that is steady enough to hold you, and subtle enough to remind you of what you already know.
Sessions are available both online and in person.
​Learn more about NER here by going to the NER page on this website. Email me or text me if you want to explore this revolutionary method of healing.
📧 Email: [email protected]
📲 Text: 250 460 7900
You belong in your own life. Your gifts deserve clarity.
Healing is not where your path ends, it is where it deepens.

There is a direct line between unhealed trauma and the struggle to manifest the life you want.
Trauma acts like a pair of dark glasses, distorting your view and dulling your hope. No matter how bright the future may be, you cannot see it from where you're standing. When your Law of Attraction practices do not conflict with your current beliefs, you might see some small shifts. But without doing the deeper work, you will always feel like there is a wall too high to see over and too wide to go around, standing between you and the life you want.

I know that wall well.
I grew up with an alcoholic father and a mother who was constantly unwell. There was no nurturing environment in our home, only a kind of emotional wilderness. I could not imagine a joyful, stable future because I had never seen one. It was like walking through life blind. I kept putting one foot in front of the other, never knowing whether I was about to fall off a cliff or take flight.
Back then, before the internet or social media therapy threads, I sought help wherever I could find it. Sweat lodges, bio-energetics, rebirthing, primal scream, free-form energy work, and even Werner Erhard’s early transformational teachings. I did not have a clear goal, just the deep knowing that I could not keep living the way I was. I was searching for something I could not yet name, maybe peace, maybe wholeness.
What I came to understand is that the real work begins when you start looking in the dark places. This is shadow work, the brave act of sitting with your triggers, your shame, and your unhealed pain. It means revisiting the uncomfortable moments in your life, not to relive them, but to release them. That process is not neat or easy. It demands honesty, and it often brings uncomfortable conversations, sometimes with others, often with yourself.
But this is the threshold. This is where the shift begins.
When you do shadow work, when you begin to dismantle the emotional patterns and belief systems you inherited or created to survive, you start to see what is actually possible for you. That is when manifestation begins to work in real, tangible ways. Life begins to flow. You start making decisions that feel aligned. You stop grasping and start allowing. That is clarity. And with clarity comes freedom.

Let me tell you a story.
My youngest son, who lived with me off and on over the years, came home again. He often did, about every six months or so. I think this place felt safe to him. One morning, he had a grand mal seizure. It turned out he had stage 4 metastatic melanoma. He died eleven months later, just before the COVID-19 lockdowns.
Grief is normal. But I was not consumed by it. That is not to say I did not hurt or rage. I did. I still do sometimes. But the trauma did not take over my life. Thanks to the work I had done, through shadow work and especially through Neuro Emotional Release, I had the tools to move through the grief without becoming it.
That is what clarity gives you. Space. Space to breathe, to grieve, to let go. Space to let others walk their own path, even when it is heartbreaking. You stop trying to fix everyone else and start living your life from a place of grounded, calm presence. You begin to trust that people will find their way in their own time.
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What’s next
Now, my life is simpler. I choose how I work. I give my energy to things that nourish me. I ask better questions. Sometimes I do not ask anything at all. I simply allow people to be who they are. That is the gift at the end of the dark tunnel, a life that feels light, spacious, and quietly joyful.
The bonus is this, doing the deep work has made me a bit of a manifesting pro. When you clear out the emotional clutter, energy flows. Your desires are no longer blocked by fear or old wounds. You get clearer, faster, and more aligned results, not because you have become better at visualizing, but because you have become better at being.
If any part of this speaks to you, if you feel like you have been carrying too much for too long, I want you to know this, you do not have to keep doing it alone.
Neuro Emotional Release is the work I now offer to others because it changed everything for me. It gently helps you find and clear the emotional patterns that are keeping you stuck. You do not have to explain it all or relive the pain, and you might be surprised how quickly clarity returns.
If you are ready to take that next step toward the life you know is waiting for you, let’s begin. You have carried this long enough.
📩 Reach out at [email protected] or call or text 250-460-7900 to book a session or learn more.
Let’s clear the way forward. Together.

​There’s a quote you’ve likely heard before:
“The way you do anything is the way you do everything.”
It might sound simple, even overly tidy. But this one line carries deep wisdom, and a powerful invitation.
In this post, we’ll explore what this quote really means, how it connects to habits, mindset, and relationships, and how you can use it as a tool for growth. If you're looking for tangible steps to begin applying this in your life, scroll to the end, I’ve included a gentle starting point for your practice.

🔍 What Are You Practicing?At first glance, this saying might seem a bit rigid. But it’s not about perfectionism. It’s about patterns.
The truth is, how you approach the small things often mirrors how you approach everything else, your work, your healing, your relationships, your dreams. If you consistently rush, avoid, or dismiss the little things, chances are that energy is showing up in other parts of your life too.
The same is true of how you show up with intention. If you approach even ordinary tasks with care, consistency, and presence, that energy begins to ripple through the rest of your life.

💡 Why This MattersThis principle is really about alignment. It invites you to notice whether your daily habits reflect your deeper values. Here’s how this idea shows up in different areas:

• Habits and Consistency: The way you follow through on the small things often reveals what you're committed to. Do your actions support the life you're trying to create?
• Mindset and Diligence: If you bring care and attention to routine tasks, you’re more likely to bring that same energy into your bigger goals and relationships.
• Self-Reflection: If you find yourself falling short in one area, chances are the same energy is showing up elsewhere. That’s not shameful — it’s useful. It’s where the work begins.
• Relationships and Integrity: How you treat one person — especially when there’s nothing to gain — says a lot about how you treat others. And how you treat yourself.

This isn't about control or doing everything perfectly. It’s about doing everything consciously.

🌱 First Steps Toward Everyday AlignmentIf you're ready to begin working with this principle, here’s a simple way to start:

1. Choose one “small” task you do daily: making your bed, preparing a meal, replying to an email, brushing your teeth.
2. Do it with mindfulness. Slow down. Notice your thoughts. Bring care and presence to the task.
3. Repeat it consistently for a week. This isn’t about performance, it’s about attention.
4. Reflect: What changed in how you felt? What energy carried over into other areas of your life?

When we begin to show up fully in the little things, we begin to shape our lives from the inside out.
You don’t have to do it all at once.
But you do have to begin.
Because the way you do anything really is the way you do everything.

There’s a direct line between unhealed trauma and the struggle to manifest the life you want.
Trauma acts like a pair of dark glasses, distorting your view, dulling your hope. No matter how bright the future may be, you simply can’t see it from where you're standing. And when your Law of Attraction practices don’t conflict with your current beliefs, you might see some small shifts. But without doing the deeper work, you’ll always feel like there’s a wall, too high to see over, too wide to go around, between you and the life you want.
I know that wall well.
I grew up with an alcoholic father and a mother who was constantly unwell. There wasn’t a nurturing environment in our home, just a kind of emotional wilderness. I couldn’t imagine a joyful, stable future because I had never seen one. It was like walking through life blind. I kept putting one foot in front of the other, not knowing whether I was about to fall off a cliff or take flight.
Back then, before the internet or Instagram therapy, I sought help wherever I could. Sweat lodges. Bio-energetics. Rebirthing. Primal scream. Free-form energy work. Even Werner Erhard’s early transformational work. I didn't have a plan or a clear goal, I just knew I needed to feel better. I was searching for something I couldn’t yet name: peace, maybe. Or wholeness.
What I came to realize is that the real work begins when you start looking in the dark places. This is shadow work: the brave act of sitting with your triggers, your shame, your unhealed pain. It means revisiting the most uncomfortable moments in your life, not to relive them, but to release them. That process isn’t neat or pretty. It demands that you get honest, that you have uncomfortable conversations, sometimes with others, often with yourself.
But this is the threshold. This is where the shift begins.
When you do shadow work, when you dismantle the emotional patterns and belief systems you inherited or built for survival, you begin to see what’s possible for you. That’s when manifestation starts to work. Not just in theory, but in real, tangible ways. Life begins to flow. You start making decisions that feel aligned. You stop grasping and start allowing. That’s clarity. And with clarity comes freedom.
Let me tell you a story.
My youngest son, who lived with me off and on over the years, came home again. He often did, every six months or so. I think this place felt safe to him. One morning, he had a grand mal seizure. It turned out he had stage 4 metastatic melanoma. He died 11 months later, right before the COVID-19 lockdowns.
Grief is normal. But I wasn’t consumed by it. That’s not to say I didn’t hurt or rage. I did. I still do sometimes. But the trauma didn’t take over my life. Thanks to the work I had done, through shadow work and Neuro Emotional Release, I had the tools to move through the grief without becoming it.
That’s what clarity gives you: space. Space to breathe. To grieve. To let go. To let others walk their own path, even when it’s heartbreaking. You stop trying to fix everyone else, and you start living your life from a place of grounded, calm presence. You begin to trust that everyone finds their way in their own time.
And now? My life is simpler. I choose how I work. I give my energy to things that nourish me. I ask better questions. Sometimes I don’t ask anything at all, I just allow people to be who they are. That’s the gift at the end of the dark tunnel: a life that feels light, spacious, and quietly joyful.
The bonus? Doing this deep work has made me a bit of a manifesting pro. When you clear out the noise, energy flows. Your desires aren’t blocked by fear or old wounds. You get clearer, faster, and more aligned results—not because you’ve become better at visualizing, but because you’ve become better at being.
So if you're stuck, if you're trying to manifest and nothing is shifting, don’t blame the universe. Look inward. Start asking different questions. Get comfortable with discomfort. That’s where your freedom lives.
And that’s where the magic begins.

If any part of this spoke to you, if you feel like you’re walking blind or hitting the same wall over and over again, I want you to know: you don’t have to keep doing it alone.
Neuro Emotional Release (NER) is the work I now offer to others because it’s the tool that changed everything for me. It helps you identify the emotional patterns keeping you stuck and gently clear them, without having to relive the pain.
If you're ready to step into the life that’s been waiting for you on the other side of that wall, now is the time. Don’t wait until things get unbearable. Reach out. Let’s begin the work.
You can email me at [email protected] or call/text 250-460-7900 to book a session or learn more.
You’ve carried it long enough. Let’s set it down together.

​Let’s talk about something that doesn’t often get said out loud, but lives in the spaces between us.
It’s called lateral violence, when pain and trauma within a community turn sideways, landing on each other instead of being directed at the systems or experiences that caused the pain in the first place.
You’ve seen it. Maybe you’ve even felt it:

• The subtle shaming
• The gossip masked as “concern”
• The pushback when someone dares to do something different or succeed
• The withholding of support or information
• That sense of walking on eggshells around your own people

This is what happens when unresolved trauma goes underground. It doesn’t disappear. It redirects. And far too often, it keeps us stuck, not just as communities, but as individuals trying to live a life with meaning, purpose, and joy.
Here’s the truth I keep coming back to:You can’t manifest your dream life while living in survival mode.
When your nervous system is stuck in old stories, about not being safe, not being good enough, or not being allowed to shine, it becomes nearly impossible to reach for what you truly want. Instead, you shrink. You play small. Or you get caught in cycles of self-sabotage or people-pleasing. Sound familiar?
And that’s where lateral kindness comes in. Not as a fluffy idea, but as a radical and necessary shift.
Lateral kindness is trauma-informed community care.It’s not about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about breaking cycles, starting with how we treat ourselves, and then each other.
It looks like:

• Naming trauma without blame
• Supporting instead of shaming
• Celebrating someone’s growth even if it triggers your own wounds
• Offering kindness as a boundary, not a weakness

When we commit to lateral kindness, in our families, our workplaces, our circles, we begin to create the kind of environment where healing is possible. And when healing becomes possible, transformation becomes inevitable.
Because here’s what I know:
When we clear the emotional clutter, when we release the old pain that’s been living in our bodies for years, we make space.
Space for joy. For purpose. For connection.
And yes, for the life you’ve been dreaming of. Just click here 

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